Hello there, I am a member in my high school musical and it's one of my safe spaces, my favorite things to do. The other cast members are really nice and I think I'm becoming friends or at least mutuals with a lot of them, however there is an issue I need to resolve.
I am transgender, female to male, and my deadname and the pronouns she/her give me a lot of dysphoria. (My deadname also has a bad connotation with me due to past traumas.) Only 4 people know my name and pronouns, and it honestly hurts to be misgendered and deadnamed by those who don't know.
My two largest fears are that 1. the other students will be transphobic towards me, or 2. word will spread around the school and my parents will find out. My father is not supportive, and I really fear him knowing.
My two largest fears are that 1. the other students will be transphobic towards me, or 2. word will spread around the school and my parents will find out. My father is not supportive, and I really fear him knowing.
My best friend urges me (not pressuring, more affirming) to come out, they say that most theater groups are really accepting and that it's not in the school's policy to inform parents about a student's gender identity. I believe they came out and their parents were not informed, but their parents already knew, and I really fear my parents finding out, so I'm afraid to take that risk.
I'm just not sure how to come out to my castmates, when to do it or if I should at all, but any and all advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time.
I'm just not sure how to come out to my castmates, when to do it or if I should at all, but any and all advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time.