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So I have a week old newborn and she wakes me up every single hour. I love her so so so so so so much, but it's so tiring to wake up every hour to nurse her, change her diaper, rock her, etc. My mother offered to stay over to help around and so did my ex but I know it's going to be too stressful for them and I don't want them to go through what I am. My ex comes over and let's me sleep for a few hours as he hangs with her but that's when he isn't at work and when I literally have to beg him. He's a kind person, I just feel like I am alone sometimes and terrible for making him and my family help me when they shouldn't have to. But they have been lovely so far, just... I dunno. The guilt has been eating me alive. |
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I don't have experience with kids, but I heard it is difficult and that it takes a village (even if society has been all to happy to dump all responsibility on the mother - happened to mine, she had help sometimes from grannies, but husband nill). Also before a kid one usually goes through pregnancy and labor, neither is a walk in a park so you are with a newborn after months of effort and tiredness pilling up physically and mentaly. So while I don't have advice besides accept help when offered if you are comfotable with it (you trust those people with your kid), don't feel guilty for experiencing difficulties in a difficult and novel situation. WP has parents so I hope one of them can give better advice. |
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A person shouldn't be expected to go through life without support. You are one person and can't do it all yourself. If someone is offering to help take it. For starters, your parents most likely have more experience with newborns than you do. Allow them to guide you. Don't feel guilty! You should remember that your parents are your family, therefore they are your daughters family too. Don't push yourself away from loved ones and drown in that. I don't know anything about your situation, nor your life, but if your ex is the father of the child I feel that he should be helping you. She is not just your child. she is his too. It's his responsiblity as well, and if he is around, make him pull his weight. He isn't the one dealing with postpartum, and if it's too stressful for your family and him to deal with, why are you doing it alone? You shouldn't be. |
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