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god i've gotten this way too much before, thankfully haven't gotten it here yet. at this point i wonder if i should give up on trying to do fake compliments and just tell them that sucks, oh well, cry me a river i guess. you're not going to get better if you whine to me about how you think your art is terrible in comparison to mine buddy :/ it just feels like they're trying to find someone to target their complaints to and i never know how the hell i'm supposed to react. like,, that's wonderful, dear. i have no idea how to respond to this though please find a new victim |
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LIterally though, most times I feel the same way. Like ok boo hoo, stop throwing that in my face all the time >.>
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god i've gotten this way too much before, thankfully haven't gotten it here yet. at this point i wonder if i should give up on trying to do fake compliments and just tell them that sucks, oh well, cry me a river i guess. you're not going to get better if you whine to me about how you think your art is terrible in comparison to mine buddy :/ it just feels like they're trying to find someone to target their complaints to and i never know how the hell i'm supposed to react. like,, that's wonderful, dear. i have no idea how to respond to this though please find a new victim
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I also hate that it then doesn't actually give me anything to go off of. Like okay yeah I get it you liked it or whatever but give me some substance! Is it good resolution? Is it bad? Should I shade it differently or add/take away something? Did you like what you paid/comissioned for? This "I wish I was as good as you/you're almost like X" is both guilt tripping and counterproductive and it makes me feel inferior, even if they think they're complimenting me. I'd rather they just tell me I sucked, so at least then I could work on improving. |
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Dude- the criticism part thoughh! Whenever I post art links, there's of course the people who are artists as well, but usually I'm genuinely looking for criticism, like "Did I shade it correctly?" "Did I add too much or too little detail?" "Is this character pleasing to the eye, or an eyesore?" and then there's the people who just roll over and give compliments, complain about their own style, and suddenly it's all about them 'not being good enough' instead of the criticism I wanted. I'd respond in a harsher way like 'Draw for years and study color theory/take art classes as I have if you want to draw like this', but that seems too harsh for my people-pleaser brain. I don't want them to be a carbon copy of my artwork, but their complaining sometimes sounds like they'd steal my style and 'talent' in a second if given the chance... I get insecurity, I feel bad about my art sometimes as well, but I've learned both ways that just being genuine is a better experience for both people. You're gonna mess up, it won't always look good, but that's okay. There's always the next picture to focus on, and fix what went wrong last time.
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I also hate that it then doesn't actually give me anything to go off of. Like okay yeah I get it you liked it or whatever but give me some substance! Is it good resolution? Is it bad? Should I shade it differently or add/take away something? Did you like what you paid/comissioned for? This "I wish I was as good as you/you're almost like X" is both guilt tripping and counterproductive and it makes me feel inferior, even if they think they're complimenting me. I'd rather they just tell me I sucked, so at least then I could work on improving.
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Highkey I've started saying 'I don't know what to say to that' or 'I don't know how to react to this' when I get 'I can't draw anything' or 'your art is so much better than mine' comments- |
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used to use that compliment until i started getting it myself. would whack into chat asking for criticism and looking for advice and tips, and all i'd get were so-called "compliments" instead of the shit i was looking for. got annoying. i mean, for fuck's sake, if you wanna "get as good as i am", stop dragging yourself through the mud, embarrassing yourself, and being oh-so jealous of my works--and just get to goddamn drawing. you're not gonna get anywhere when you're out here screwing yourself over and fishing for validation. |
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i dunno maybe society's just been infected with validation-hungry people who are so scared of offending each other that no one gets anywhere anymore |
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i dunno maybe society's just been infected with validation-hungry people who are so scared of offending each other that no one gets anywhere anymore
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People are always saying, "Oh, I'm so bad at art." So practice! "I don't have time, and I tried it before and I was bad." Oh, shut it, now you're just guilt tripping. And anyways, how many times did you try it? Probably only once! You're not just going to all of the sudden make a masterpiece on your first try. I get looking at art and saying, "I wish I could draw like that." I have done that so many times! So put it to action and practice towards it! Trace the person's art a couple times, then when you've got that down, try sight drawing! If you can't figure out their style, then try your own! No one in the whole wide world has the same style as someone else. So to all those out there who aspire to be artists, instead of saying "I wish I could," say... "I'm going to be that good one day." Man that felt good. |
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I don't say this since I know how uncomfortable it makes artists though I probaly used to say it. I often try to say actual compliments instead of those words and if I can't think of anything then I am silent. I think my real life friend or someone at work once said something alongs the lines of that and all I responded was: "I can't draw but I can color and write. Stop comparing". It would be and is off putting for all artists to hear those words. A artist be writer, painter, someone who draws or someone who colors in would rather compliments and even criticism. |
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