Wolf Play : Advice needed :/
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 Caeruleum
12:47:36 Cae, Blue
i refused dolls for years. like my mom had them hidden deep in the closet because id want to destroy them the moment i saw them. fam did try to get me to like "girl toys" like dolls more than "boy toys" like cars but i was firm lmao
 MLadySkylar
12:47:12 P'Sky
Amy
That part of my family has always been weird, then another part.
The men, husbands get food first, not the babies.
I wish a grown person would try to eat before my kids.
I'll pull out my rolling pin on you
 Amygdala
12:46:24 Amy/Anpmygdala
I love chatting with you all but i need to go do closing at my store...be back in an hour or so
 Leon
12:46:08 
wander

you trade it with the older lady in explore I think
 Feiella
12:46:00 Fei The Sleepy Ghost
wait? Sharp Snap killed a big foot and a Grendel? the fuck?
 Amygdala
12:45:51 Amy/Anpmygdala
P'sky
I hate cooking and cleaning or similar "women" work

But working outside has never been a problem XD
 Malcuth
12:45:35 Wander
What does the gold wolf figurine do?
 StarRun
12:45:01 
My goal is to have puppies like you guys do
 MLadySkylar
12:44:49 P'Sky
I remember people on my mom's side of the family telling me,
This is men's work 'outside and making money ' women's work is in the home and cleaning.
My mom always told them to stuff it.
We're all equal, I was born in the 90s
 Feiella
12:44:32 Fei The Sleepy Ghost
Leon
your welcome
 Amygdala
12:44:27 Amy/Anpmygdala
Fei
I always prefeard to play with cars and yugioh and lego XD

My cousins are similar age so i loved playing at their place
 limbo
12:44:09 ZD
this might age me but does anyone remember pogs, the little milk cap game? </3
 Leon
12:43:49 
Fei

my brain hurts just trying to read that
 Amygdala
12:43:37 Amy/Anpmygdala
Cae
I never had cards either...they are getting popular again and i am debating getting some for fun
 Feiella
12:43:10 Fei The Sleepy Ghost
if yugioh is for just boys then so he pokemon.

Thing is you get both girls and boys watching pokemon and yugioh
 Caeruleum
12:42:56 Cae, Blue
well, not 20s but late teens <.<
 Leon
12:42:50 
Grendel kills: 2

I think that's pretty good for having no DG wolves
 Caeruleum
12:42:46 Cae, Blue
never collected pokemon cards though, i didnt even know those existed til my 20s LOL
 MLadySkylar
12:42:04 P'Sky
Amy
My childhood <3
I have so many of all 3, my favorite was Bakugan.
I lived and breathed it
 Caeruleum
12:41:51 Cae, Blue
ive disliked bakugan so ive never seen it LOL
i did love the toys though-

nah, botn my bro and i had yugioh cards (still do), id go out and just find them on the playground and finders keepers lmao

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Advice needed :/June 6, 2023 10:58 AM


Soulsilver

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Heya all! Soulsilver here in need of advice :/

I am having issues with my close friends. I love her to no end, but things aren’t really working out between us. Backstory here-

I’ve been friends with two people, one male and one female (I myself a bio-female). I tend to like girls more, and it’s always been a joke between us and a couple of other close friends that I’m pretty gay (in the umbrella term). I’m alright with this, and it is also fine with another homosexual that’s in our group.

Since I tend to like girls more, I and my male friend got really close, and I developed ~feelings~. My personality is very blunt and standoffish. I don’t like tiptoeing around things. So I told him. He liked me back, but we’re not together. We do flirt a lot and joke around, but whenever someone asks us if we’re dating, we both say no. We’re military brats, so we move around quite a lot, so maybe that’s why.

Anyway, my female friend, she also likes him. I’ve encouraged her to, you know, ask him out, tell him, whatever. Because I don’t really mind, we’re not together. Plus, I'm polyamorous, so it's not out of the ordinary for stuff like that. She always says no, though, and I respect that, but she has shot me some dirty looks when I and him are joking around.

Another thing between us: She constantly tries to make herself look better than me and she always butts heads with me. I have 3 siblings and 3 pets. We aren’t tight on money, which I am grateful for, but she seems to kind of…flaunt? Her money sudley. And I hate it. She has also told me that I need to change my personality, I agree that I have some {A lot} of flaws, but I told her she could leave if she didn’t want to deal with my personality. She didn’t. She doesn’t stop when I point out my triggers, she just keeps doing what she was doing but then gets pissed at me for my coping.

One of my tiggers is when people call my name over and over when trying to get my attention. She does this constantly. I've told her more times than I can count, but it hasn't worked.

I don't like being touched. I flinch away and have a tic attack. I've explained this, she still gets PISSED at me and tries to have a physical connection with me.

I just don’t know what to do about this. I need to understand how to cut her off because that’s what I want to do at this point. I’ve explained to her face-to-face so many times, I don’t know how much more I can take.

I've tried to cut things off between us, explaining that toxicity is coming from both sides and I don't think we're working out, but she denies and begs me to say.

So, do y'all have any ideas? I do want to cut our friendship off, I know that.

Thanks for your help, and know that if you ever want to talk about something going on with you, feel free to PM me :)

Have a great day/night!

~Soulsilver

Advice needed :/June 6, 2023 11:06 AM


Devils Heart

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Yikes. I can tell you first off, she's gaslighting you into staying. Flaunting money and not respecting triggers?? That's a BIG red flag. It's very clear she's jealous of you and said male friend of flirting. Maybe if she could understand you have tourettes and don't like being touched? Have you tried explaining why you don't like being touched? I'm hoping these help, but I'm not sure if they do. Just do let me know. :")
Advice needed :/June 6, 2023 11:09 AM


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Stxrmmixe <3, yea I realize that :') She was a close friend, and I'm sad to lose her since she was with me when my first toxic friendship was over, so I know the red flags in our current friendship. I don't want either of us to be in that.
I have explained both of those to her :/
I just need help breaking things off with her lol
I'm grateful for you, my friend :') Thanks for reaching out <3
Advice needed :/June 6, 2023 11:11 AM


Creepy Currency

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Hey Ashe, how are ya (other than this)? First, what I think, is that you shouldn't be friends whith the female friend anymore, and ask this male friend to go out with ya! how I think you should get rid of this female friend is this; Stop interacting with her, and block her on everything
If you ever need anything, just PM me, sib <333333

Edited at June 6, 2023 11:13 AM by Howling on the cliff
Advice needed :/June 6, 2023 11:16 AM


Creepy Currency

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Also, if ya ever need help calming your tics, I'm here for ya ^^
Edit- I can't spell :'D

Edited at June 6, 2023 11:20 AM by Howling on the cliff
Advice needed :/June 6, 2023 11:53 AM


Former Pack

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Hey I typed so much that I got logged out so here's a shorter version:
Solution:
An alternative way for you to get by this is to write a letter, as calm/formal/unbiased as possible, telling her that she's done (your input) things that made you feel (your input), hence, you're ending your friendship so that both of you won't get hurt by it anymore. If a confrontation happens in real life, just keep saying along the lines of "No, we're not friends anymore" and nothing else, regardless of what she says.
My personal thoughts:
You seem subconsciously held back by something(s), especially since you've let the relationship go on even after attempting to get away from it several times, only to give in to her begging. I'm sure there are people who could carry out the situation immediately but I think it would be worthwhile for you to reflect on why you were unable to stand your ground/be determined about cutting off the relationship. Could be:
- you don't want to inconvenience your mutual friends (peer-related stuff is always a bit harder to deal with)
- you feel bad for her life situation and think that your staying as friends helps her (but doesn't help you so this is an irrelevant point)
and other points are probably not as important as your self-worth so good luck cutting off that friendship since she definitely has unresolved behavioral issues that shouldn't be your responsibility. Like, you literally have other people who are bigger joys in your life and you're spending energy and time on her, which is a waste, but at least you cared about her enough to ask on a forum.
Advice needed :/June 6, 2023 12:20 PM


Soulsilver

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Isdeon, thank you so much <3
This helped me A LOT. You seem like a really good person and a sensible one too!
Thank you a lot :)
Advice needed :/August 9, 2024 06:15 AM


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So my sister has the same problems with one of her friends, and all I can say is try to find another friend. My sister's closest friend in a certain grade was nice to her, but now essntially uses her and is also pretty much a big bully. She now has other friends, and she doesn't talk to the other person as much. I'd just reccomend finding a good other friend (If you want another one; I'm pretty sure you're doing fine with your male friend) and remember that if this doesn't work out, it's not your fault. This person is a fake friend, and you don't need to feel bad about this.

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