not really a rant, i'm just confused.

i go by she/her pronouns in real life (fuck my homophobic/transphobic/generally unaccepting surroundings), but i use they/them online because it feels better for me.

thing is, today, i heard someone say "oh, (name)'s right here, they're not busy" (by accident of course), and ..that also sounded.. not right.

i'm not bothered by what people refer to me as in general, but at the same time, i haven't found anything really comfortable for me ever since i started questioning my gender. i have considered trying xe/xem/xyr, but i don't know, i'm not that familiar with neopronouns.

i would prefer/am leaning towards an androgynous appearance as well, so they/xem?

also stuck with my sexuality- since i don't know if i identify as lesbian anymore, and whether i'm on the ace-spectrum or not.

so uh- any advice is appreciated. also, if you guys don't mind sort of dropping sentences sort of like "A sees a cat, xe pick it up" with different ones that would help too <3